I don’t trust a man who hasn’t suffered; I don’t let a man get close to me who hasn’t faced his wound. Think of the posers you know—are they the kind of man you would call at 2:00 A.M., when life is collapsing around you? Not me. I don’t want clichés...; I want deep, soulful truth, and that only comes when a man has walked the road. By John Eldredge "Wild at Heart"
AS, TA and 2 others like this.
TV
agreed
Mon at 2:48pm
TA
Not only suffered, but a) are unafraid to admit it, and b) are living from a place of seeing the value in it and has grown from it. Thanks for sharing this Mike. Let's get together sometime soon.
Mon at 4:01pm
LS
When u state a man who hasn't faced his wound - what do u mean here? Is that to own up to his doings?? Confessing of wrongs to yourself or others? I do know Sherry and Mindy are two I would and could call at 2 am. Good people like u!
Tue at 11:46am
Me
Our wounds are from the past inflicted upon us by others. A divorce, cheating spouse, addictions, real failures, and those wounds are parents gave are the deepest. These are the wounds we all have and it these wounds God uses to help others. Jesus us healed us through His wounds. Our wounds we bring to our marriages and in most cases they are what causes most of the difficulties. Acknowledge we are broken wounded children of God lets the healing begin.
Tue at 12:49pm
JG
Mike I read the book brother and I could not disagree with you "Wild at Heart" is an awesome book that I recommend all men to read. Wounds come in many different styles and flavors I find it to be very inspiring when one can confess the truth of his wounds. The problem I see is that most people are bias and uses those wounds against you once confessed. So where do you find such good people that are excepting and willing to over look the short comings of a man?
Tue at 11:10pm
LS
Sherry did a very bold and brave thing the other day and I was sooo proud of her openness about her past and not all of it is was roses.. but she sent me this and learning from my past and realizing we are not perfect and all have past faults but we must love the person for who they are not who we want them to be..... Who we are tells us alot about our walk with God- past and present- Here is an email quote she sent me. the beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them...thomas merton
Yesterday at 9:35am
Me
Those who face their wounds find that God has given them their purpose in it. Look at John Walsh who hosts/found Americas Most Wanted. His passion and purpose came out of the wound of his son being murdered. Lara and Sherry show us in there message above what great women know and show us how to love that is why we need a woman. There are many friends here on my facebook that sneer and criticize me for my openness and the subjects i wrestle with. It is disheartening that my friends drop me from facebook because of my openness. In history any great man or woman has found their God given purpose through a wound. I know God is doing something spectacular with the wounds of my failed marriage. He has given me ministry to work with young men to share with them the mistakes I have made in dating and choosing a woman to marry. It is so amazing to see these young men wrestle with me and God. What is beautiful Joe is there are men out here wanting to heal and share their stuff.
Yesterday at 9:51am
Showing posts with label pain. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pain. Show all posts
Monday, August 31, 2009
Friday, August 21, 2009
Crucifixation of Marriage
"The ideal marriage is one that is most like the crucifixation." C.S. Lewis - Therefore we must die for a woman. Come on that's how it works anyway, admit it and enjoy it Christ did it for us.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
To Feel Life
Lord thank you for letting me FEEL life for removing the numbness that this culture imparted on me for so long. For I know pain all to well but do I ever now know joy! Lord make sure I continue to have pain in my life. Please make my life hard, serve up loss, disappointment, and brokenness often.
BP on July 15 at 5:29pm
Amen :) !!!
AS on July 15 at 10:12pm
This makes me happy for you.
SM on July 16 at 12:26pm
leather, whips and chains involved here? sounds like the ultimate masoch prayer while getting spanked... naughty boy, you!! lol !! Cheer up Mike !! Come visit...
GW on July 16 at 12:35pm
Great meeting under the stars and all GOD's glory talking with you my friend. Know as your friend and brother from another mother, always there for you!
ME on July 16 at 12:39pm ·
Its been a good week much to be happy about. Healing is always sweet. Can ya taste it!
AS on July 16 at 1:59pm
I know exactly what you mean. I've done a lot of healing, just in the past month!
BP on July 15 at 5:29pm
Amen :) !!!
AS on July 15 at 10:12pm
This makes me happy for you.
SM on July 16 at 12:26pm
leather, whips and chains involved here? sounds like the ultimate masoch prayer while getting spanked... naughty boy, you!! lol !! Cheer up Mike !! Come visit...
GW on July 16 at 12:35pm
Great meeting under the stars and all GOD's glory talking with you my friend. Know as your friend and brother from another mother, always there for you!
ME on July 16 at 12:39pm ·
Its been a good week much to be happy about. Healing is always sweet. Can ya taste it!
AS on July 16 at 1:59pm
I know exactly what you mean. I've done a lot of healing, just in the past month!
Monday, June 29, 2009
Not Between PLEASE
One day joy will visit again yet only for a short time and in joys departure I will come to know God more. If you find me numb and not passionate please wake me, share with me a struggle or wound so that I may return quickly to realizing Life needs/is pain. Without pain I cannot recognize or fully appreciate the fleeting moments of pure joy. I would rather be crying in pain and crying in joy then be in between.
Simone Weil was right; there are only two things that pierce the human heart: beauty and affliction.
Simone Weil was right; there are only two things that pierce the human heart: beauty and affliction.
Thursday, June 18, 2009
The Desire Cure
**BREAKING NEWS** Stoicism is reaching pandemic proportions. (stoicism: the repression of emotion and indifference to pleasure or pain). There is a cure and its free. All you have to do is awaken the desires of your heart. Do YOU remember way back or seen a child laugh one minute the next crying in pain? Desire is good my friends real darn good! Go there...
JB at 11:53am June 18
I have no feeling or reaction to this...
TR at 4:10pm June 18
Is it just me, or is this disorder more likely to affect the male members of our species?
JB at 4:11pm June 18
call it rage contained.
SM at 4:14pm June 18
Uhhh, What?
ME at 4:16pm June 18
Research shows that it is highly contagious especially in Johnson County and most prevalent amongst the men. Our Dad's did not let us get vaccinated even though Mom insisted but that was back when it was a man's world.
JB at 11:53am June 18
I have no feeling or reaction to this...
TR at 4:10pm June 18
Is it just me, or is this disorder more likely to affect the male members of our species?
JB at 4:11pm June 18
call it rage contained.
SM at 4:14pm June 18
Uhhh, What?
ME at 4:16pm June 18
Research shows that it is highly contagious especially in Johnson County and most prevalent amongst the men. Our Dad's did not let us get vaccinated even though Mom insisted but that was back when it was a man's world.
Friday, December 05, 2008
Pain
Why is there so much similarity in the pain of pure joy the one that brings us to tears and the pains of failure, losing a loved one, and those wounds of our heart that our closet loved one’s inflict. Love is at the foundation of this pain for our brokenness which is really our failures and loses that having led us away from God. However God uses these to change and move our hearts close to how God wants us to be. Joy is having found God’s Grace in the midst of this painful life for we were made for something greater and we know that deep within ourselves, we were made to be hero’s and lovers. Take a close look at the joy you experience I will bet it wasn’t about any material thing but about an experience where we found our true selves in loving someone else and/or loving ourselves not in an ego self centric way just that feeling I like who I am for that moment.
We find it difficult to love our closest friends and family because this is where we get most of our pain. However we still love them and it is this love contrast of joy and painful wounds that allows us to understand that love is so painful. Why do some of us strive for the middle ground that place of numbness where there are no highs or lows, no tears of joy, no wounds to be had? I would say most of us strive to cut out the bottoms the place where we are wounded. We avoid situations where there is risk of failure or rejection of our true self. But in reality those wounds and rejections just happen even those we avoid them at all cost. This cost is that numbness or middle ground. This is where we find ourselves most of our lives numb, busy and terribly unconnected to our hearts. If we slow down, get quiet and pear into our own hearts we discover the lack of Joy and there is so much pain in that because like I said above we were made for much more, we know it. We need to take the time ask God to give us the eyes and the ears to experience the real contrast of His Kingdom. For God’s is in all the pain. Blessed are those that get to experience the complete pain in the tears of joy and also see God’s redemption in the most painful failures and loses. God knows that if there was no pain that we would not notice Him. So he uses pain for our good. It’s the way he shapes us to His purpose. Pain is necessary and no one is able to avoid it in their lives.
Pain moves us to action. Yes sometimes it moves us to the middle ground but that is good. This is God’s way of protecting us from too much or better put he give us the middle ground as a release valve. He does not want us to stay there but soon after the pains and wounds we usually get a choice to experience joy and redemption this is God’s way of filling us up and making us whole. This where we say “God is Good”.
Let’s get back to Joy and why it hurts. Joy hurts because we know it is fleeting, so temporary for most of us that the middle ground feels like joy to us. Wounds are different those last. They lie under the surface and stay there sometimes for a life time. We bury them in the numbness because we have not let God have them. This numbness and burying is the work of the devil. He uses this as a form to keep us under his reign. This is one of the devil’s main strategies just to keep us numb and lifeless. He knows his kingdom will increase just by shear accumulation of wounds.
However, when we abide in God’s grace we have more opportunities for joy but make no mistake there will be plenty of pain. All pain forces us to change to let go of something for God’s purpose. He uses it to change our hearts. Jesus was very clear about this when he said “Take up your cross and follow Me” (Luke 9:23). What he meant was die to your ego self live for something else. This takes the pain off of us and gives to God. No longer do we bear all the burden of our pain. God is the pain. He wants us to experience with Him. Look for God in the Joy and the wounds. He is there!
We find it difficult to love our closest friends and family because this is where we get most of our pain. However we still love them and it is this love contrast of joy and painful wounds that allows us to understand that love is so painful. Why do some of us strive for the middle ground that place of numbness where there are no highs or lows, no tears of joy, no wounds to be had? I would say most of us strive to cut out the bottoms the place where we are wounded. We avoid situations where there is risk of failure or rejection of our true self. But in reality those wounds and rejections just happen even those we avoid them at all cost. This cost is that numbness or middle ground. This is where we find ourselves most of our lives numb, busy and terribly unconnected to our hearts. If we slow down, get quiet and pear into our own hearts we discover the lack of Joy and there is so much pain in that because like I said above we were made for much more, we know it. We need to take the time ask God to give us the eyes and the ears to experience the real contrast of His Kingdom. For God’s is in all the pain. Blessed are those that get to experience the complete pain in the tears of joy and also see God’s redemption in the most painful failures and loses. God knows that if there was no pain that we would not notice Him. So he uses pain for our good. It’s the way he shapes us to His purpose. Pain is necessary and no one is able to avoid it in their lives.
Pain moves us to action. Yes sometimes it moves us to the middle ground but that is good. This is God’s way of protecting us from too much or better put he give us the middle ground as a release valve. He does not want us to stay there but soon after the pains and wounds we usually get a choice to experience joy and redemption this is God’s way of filling us up and making us whole. This where we say “God is Good”.
Let’s get back to Joy and why it hurts. Joy hurts because we know it is fleeting, so temporary for most of us that the middle ground feels like joy to us. Wounds are different those last. They lie under the surface and stay there sometimes for a life time. We bury them in the numbness because we have not let God have them. This numbness and burying is the work of the devil. He uses this as a form to keep us under his reign. This is one of the devil’s main strategies just to keep us numb and lifeless. He knows his kingdom will increase just by shear accumulation of wounds.
However, when we abide in God’s grace we have more opportunities for joy but make no mistake there will be plenty of pain. All pain forces us to change to let go of something for God’s purpose. He uses it to change our hearts. Jesus was very clear about this when he said “Take up your cross and follow Me” (Luke 9:23). What he meant was die to your ego self live for something else. This takes the pain off of us and gives to God. No longer do we bear all the burden of our pain. God is the pain. He wants us to experience with Him. Look for God in the Joy and the wounds. He is there!
Monday, January 21, 2008
What Hurts
In my experiences the truth never hurts it’s the not knowing of the truth that hurts the most. The hurt is following the false cultural phenomenon and losing my hearts truth. That is true hurt.
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007
Volunteered in the am for the Jackson County Triathlon and it was a good to see friends and make a new one, connect with a team mate, see pettiness, see families being there to support one another.
Afternoon Ride with a friend to just hang out in the outside! Still cannot believe the beauty of every ride.
Church: What an unbelievable place, the energy, the God thing just fills the tank up. The before and after effect on my kids is way too cool. If I could prove to you the power of God in a real life example, I would show you the joy and energy that comes out of them after Sunday school.
Evening: I recently got my family photos back from a friend that stored them during the divorce. I pulled out some pictures of my ex wife Julie and I on our honeymoon to Hawaii. Memories flooded in, raw pain of the failure of my marriage, shed a few tears. Trust me divorce hurts like you have no idea, But like any heart break, loss or tragedy there are gifts in it. More later.
Afternoon Ride with a friend to just hang out in the outside! Still cannot believe the beauty of every ride.
Church: What an unbelievable place, the energy, the God thing just fills the tank up. The before and after effect on my kids is way too cool. If I could prove to you the power of God in a real life example, I would show you the joy and energy that comes out of them after Sunday school.
Evening: I recently got my family photos back from a friend that stored them during the divorce. I pulled out some pictures of my ex wife Julie and I on our honeymoon to Hawaii. Memories flooded in, raw pain of the failure of my marriage, shed a few tears. Trust me divorce hurts like you have no idea, But like any heart break, loss or tragedy there are gifts in it. More later.
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